Fulfillment is something found throughout life, not from the actions per say but from living a full and intentional life in mind, body and spirit. What is unique to lifelong romantic love is the fulfillment it can bring to every part of me. In this way it brings out a depth of fulfillment that can come from nothing else. 
Body is the obvious example, two people coming together to bring out a deep physical passion and mutual nurturing. A meeting of minds in a relationship brings out the best and challenges the worst in each other. You know each others thoughts as best friends. In this is not just intellect, but an interpersonal knowledge of the spirit. Love supports our souls, lets them sing. Put this altogether and you have an interwoven connection I have not witnessed in any other form of relationship.
Security is an interesting term. It can be used in the context of protection from an external fear. It can be used as a measurement of individual worth, protecting from internal fear. But in the framework of love I believe it goes far beyond this to help us eliminate fear altogether. I have never been in love so I'm sure it isn't as ideal as that. 
But I do believe that security is a dynamic thing that changes us. It seems to start with the validation that comes from a relationship and the personal fulfillment that it brings. It further comes from giving that love and fulfillment to your partner, the object of your love. And it comes from this combination of personal and relational development. In seeing how love changes ourselves and our lovers, we see how interconnected our lives are with the broader world around. The more I love myself and my fellow man the less I harbor fear and the more I enjoy freedom of a good life.Someday I'll meet a man, the man, who will teach me more about love than anyone else in my life. Until that time every relationship, small or great, will teach me more and get me closer to this fearless joy.
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